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You are Always on my Mind
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| Random Thoughts - November 2008 |
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INTRODUCTION
Ever since I started to open up to the concept of forming 'ascending' relationships with other women quite a lot has happened. I have had a few relationships that taught me things about the way I tended to run my energy around women and I expanded on the idea of the intent to harmlessly connect with others. Another few thought forms that proved to be rather essential in developing these harmless connections are the ones dealing with the curses in the love meme and the idea of falling in mechanized love. You can read about all these elements by clicking on the links on top of this page.
The aim of this current page is to tell you about my discoveries during the last couple of weeks as far as the exploration of interpersonal intimate harmlessness is concerned.
HEART DYNAMICS
My sense of an ascending relationship is that you should try to open up your heart for the other one as much as possible, not necessarily as long as possible. If you intend an open-hearted connection and you add a relatively unfiltered mode of communciation to it, much of the main criteria of an ascending relationship are met in my current point of view. Unfiltered for me means that you have so much trust in your bodily sensations, your intuitions, your ideas, thoughts, memories that you feel free to share them with someone else, no matter how inappropriate it may seem.
Another distinction that I have learnt to make is that it still is possible to have a open-hearted, unfiltered communication with someone else even though you both are not interested in forming an intimate sexual relationship. These elements 'forming a longer relationship', 'sexual intimacy' and 'unfiltered heart-communication' need not all be present. For some this can be quite complicated. It is not always easy to have an open-hearted unfiltered communication with someone else without having the potential of developing a long lasting relationship with physical intimacy.
CONNECTING WITH MORE PEOPLE
As I have suggested before, the use of certain vocabulary or certain thought forms is quite crucial for me. It wouldn't be possible to move forward if I would still prefer to think in terms like 'falling in love', 'to love someone deeply' and 'to be together until death do us part'.
The best alternative for me is the use of 'connecting' with people through the heart. There are multiple advantages of this verb. First of all it allows for the element of time more appropriately than 'love' does. Within this framework it is possible to consciously open your heart and exchange energy with someone else, enjoy it fully, perhaps even physically and then it is perfectly fine to disconnect again and move on.
Instead of 'being in love' with someone else all of the time, it might be energetically more fruitful to not 'be in love' with someone continuously. Popular thought form promotes that it is a sign of 'true love' if someone else is on your mind throughout the day, the week. I prefer to regard is a sign of losing energy to someone else, whereas you'd better invest it in having a more proper energy flow within yourself, or perhaps with other people that are around you at that time.
If you think about your 'lover' or 'partner' when the other is not present too often I think you are not enough in present time, but you are either looking back to old memories or have desires about future possibilities of being together. I don't think that belongs to an ascending relationship.
BELONGING TO SOMEONE ELSE
Another element that popped up is the danger that in a relationship you start to think that you somehow belong to someone else, or that in a way you own your partner: "She's my friend (she belongs to me)". Instead of using the possessive pronoun it might be more constructive within the light of an ascending relationship to talk about "She is someone I love to temporarily connect with".
I am starting to think that the intimacy between two persons can be more intense and deeper when you both consciously connect to each other during certain periods and you consciously disconnect most of the time when you are not together. Perhaps this allows for a more focused energy exchange than a vaguely lingering unfocused energy cloud.
POLYAMORY
This current development seems to touch upon the concept of polyamory, as it is defined on wikipedia:
An important way to personally verify if you feel like you are doing the 'right' thing is by using your body. What I mean by that is that if you are able to open your heart to more people at different times and your breath is full, and your consciousness (or translating center) is still fully functional and your heart is exchanging a wonderful flow of energy, I don't see any reason not to add the element of intimacy to it, not that it is necessary, and there are of course many kinds of intimacy, as long as you are completely clear about these matters with the people involved, and if you don't 'use' people to satisfy your sexual desires I think it is a wonderful way of being in this world.
REMAINING CENTERED WITHIN
What I find very useful in this evolving approach towards connecting with other people is that you are always centered, in the sense that it is you that is the active agent. You are able to open up for someone else, to tune into someone else and experience the energy exchange and then you are able to close the connection. There is no dependence at all on other people. The main power source remains your own field and you decide when you want to open up for someone else.
So much for now, please share constructive thoughts,
Gibbon
November 2008
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