Relationship as an Outside Mirror

INTRODUCTION
In the context of the exploration of the phenomenon of connecting harmlessly with other people I received an email with an interesting perspective which I would like to share with you.

In July 2008 I read: "I have an understanding of what you are talking about: what is love between a man and a woman or two romantic partners, what is this 'romantic love' as we experience it and identify it? Most would describe 'romantic love or love between two partners' as blissful and desirable, a chemical reaction, an exciting and joyful interaction, steamy and sexy, a harmless blessing.

Of course there are those love relationships where harm is obvious: a spouse who beats the other, a spouse who lies and cheats on the other, etc. Yet in those obviously harmful relationships, often one or both profess to still love the other.

And as you and I are seeing, whether this 'romantic love' be obviously harmful or what most would identify as blissful union, as we ascend, we are knowing this interaction we call "romantic or partner love" is codependency, usery, manipulation, karmic contracts being fulfilled, habitual energetic dynamics resurfacing to be unconsciously habitually experienced, neediness, harmful, etc... it seems that 'romantic love or romantic partnership' is not a sovereign or harmless or balanced state of being.

In my experience and understanding right now, the only way to eventually attain sovereign love is to unite the masculine and feminine within one's self. And if one is "practicing" this union in an "outward" relationship, with an outer mirror, then one will have a spouse or romantic partner or be looking for one.

It seems that at some point when the time is "right", not because one forces it upon themselves out of a false sense of duty or purity or desired spiritual attainment that they truly haven't attained, not because one is in a state of depression or hate or bitterness and so gives up on 'romantic relationship and romantic love', not for any reason or cause other than when one is naturally 'ready' will all romantic relationships with others end.

When it is fulfilling to be one's own lover, it blooms (through disciplined inner intentions and growth) into glorious being. All interest in the opposite sex for sex or for attention or for a 'trophy' or for care or for money or for intimate companionship or for anything drops away."